This week, we're going to talk about how we talk to ourselves and what words we use when we talk to ourselves. I think we all know by now that the words we use matter, and they matter more when you're talking to yourself than you may think. So how are you talking to yourself? Are you encouraging? Are you kind, do you push yourself forward or do you sabotage your efforts before you even get going?
You better be careful about how you talk to yourself. The words you use do matter, whether you're saying them out loud to someone else or you're saying them to yourself. So last week we talked about your brain and how it seeks, pleasure, avoid pain, and does its best to conserve energy.
We have to unleash our brains to figure out new things. We have to tell it to figure things out, or it will just say no. Remember your brain's primary job is to keep you alive. And if you haven't done something before, there is no reason to chance it. But there is because if you don't take a chance to grow and do things and see things and think about things differently, you and your situations will never change. When we give our brains the command to figure things out, it actually will. It will work on it when you don't even realize it, your brain really does want to serve you. So let me ask you, do you come up with your best ideas when you're in the shower or maybe you're mowing your lawn or you're driving at those moments, you're doing something that your brain knows how to do.
It's done it a million times and doesn't really need to concentrate to do it. It's moved everything about these actions into the subconscious. So while you're in the middle of these activities, your brain will throw things out at you that you've given it the green light to think about. And since you're in a state to receive those ideas, because your frontal cortex, the part of your brain, that's focused on the here and now isn't very busy. This week. I gave my Facebook group this very simple example. Let's say you want to figure out what to do for dinner on Friday. You can say to yourself, I don't know what to do for dinner on Friday. At which point your brain will say, well, neither do I. So let's just forget about it. Or you can say, what can we do? That's different and fun for dinner on Friday.
That gives your brain the go ahead to figure it out. And it will come up with ideas. It will look for everything that supports the question and the answer to the question. What fun and exciting thing can we do for dinner on Friday? Here's another example. I give this one to my one on one clients a lot, just because there's a tree outside my office window. So it's kind of an easy example for me. If you say to yourself, I'm going to try to climb that tree. Your brain says, Nope, we are not doing that. And nothing more happens. But if you say, what would I have to do to climb that tree? Then your brain kicks into gear. Well, first you have to get up and go out there and take a look at the branches and see how high up they are. Can you reach a branch to pull yourself up? If not, Hey, do we have a rope around, et cetera, et cetera. You see how that works?
All right. The final example I'm going to give you today is when you're asked a question or you ask yourself a question and your answer is, I don't know. That is not a good answer. Do not ever give yourself or anyone else that answer, because when you do, you're giving your brain permission to quit. So if you want to make progress and grow and do things you've never done, you better figure out how to talk to your brain. So it will serve you. If you find yourself saying, I don't know when, ask a question, ask yourself this. But if I did know, what would the answer be doing? This can change things dramatically for you at that point, your giving your brain a command to answer the question, not to give up, but to answer it.
And the answer is like, they'll come at you and they may not be the right answer for you, but their answers and your brain is going to figure out what the right answer is for you. So when you ask the question, what would I say? If I did know the answer, say something because your brain is gonna throw something out at you, let it keep coming up with ideas, try those ideas. And one of them will actually work.
Give yourself more credit, give your brain more credit, but make your brain serve you in what you really want. Watch how you're talking to yourself. Make sure you're encouraging. Make sure that you're not giving yourself the opportunity to quit or to give up or to not even try. I promise you if you start doing these things, when we come back here, something is going to have clicked for you. And I want you to let me know what that is. Okay?
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