Finding Your Purpose

​You’ve probably heard it before. How everyone has a purpose. We’re all given our own special talents and gifts that we’re supposed to use to fulfill our purpose here on earth. As a Christian, I’ve heard it for a long time. “You are uniquely and wonderfully made…” “God has a plan for YOU that no one else can execute.
But what if you have no idea what that purpose or plan is? What are you supposed to do?
I was in that spot for most of my life. There were times I thought I knew. I have a career I enjoy, so I figured that was it. Until I started wanting more. Something was missing and I knew it. Ever feel that way? So I was in search of my true Purpose…..with a capital “P.” I tried the entrepreneur route. I started a business, made it successful and still, the “it” was missing.
If you’ve read my blog entitled, “When Coaching Became “IT.” you know what happened. If you haven’t read it, in short, this is what happened:
I was driving to work on an early Wednesday morning. I was about 5 miles away from work, on a two-lane windy, hilly road. Over the hill in front of me were two headlights in the other lane. And all of a sudden, there were four. I remember actually blinking my eyes and shaking my head (like you see in cartoons) to try to get my vision right again. It wasn’t my vision that was the problem. Someone chose to pass a van, on a two-lane road, on a hill and a blind curve. He was coming right at me and was right in front of me. I SAW….I’m not even kidding…. I SAW the headlights go
Right. Thru. Me.
There was no time to react. It happened that fast. That pickup truck didn’t hit me. I’m telling you the ONLY explanation is that God intervened. I got chills as I wrote that. God saved me again that day. As I continued my drive, my heart was not pounding, my hands were not shaking. I simply continued on my way. Like I was watching a freaking movie. When I parked at my office a few minutes later, my legs were barely strong enough to hold me up when I got out of the car. The reality that I should have been killed in a horrific car accident but instead, the oncoming pickup truck passed right through me, was too much.
Then a phrase that had come up so many times between me and my pastor and friend, Richard Gay, exploded in my head: “This is not about YOU!”
So that was the moment that everything was sort of revealed to me. Only it still wasn’t completely clear. A few months later, my friend, the one whose words, “It’s not about you” still, and will always, explode in my head died.
For months I was paralyzed. For those of you who have experienced grief, you know what I’m talking about. I couldn’t DO anything but go through the motions of each day and pray the next one would get easier. And then something clicked and all the dots were connected for me. At the risk of being cocky and having God laugh at me, I realized what my purpose was. So I began training to be a Life Coach. I need to help people who cannot move, who are stuck in whatever situation they’re in, get UNStuck.
Someone told me that means I’m a “transitions coach.” And that’s fine. I absolutely love to help people who find themselves in one of the happy or sad transitions of life figure out what’s next for them. But I also like to help people find the cause of there inability to change things in their life….To become more than they are….to take the leap of faith and become who they are supposed to be…to find their PURPOSE.
Now I’m not saying you need someone to show you your purpose. If you’ve known it all along, that’s awesome. I implore you to not ignore it. Do not waste the opportunity of fulfilling your purpose.
If you don’t know what you’re purpose is, please keep your eyes, your ears, your heart, and your mind open. Don’t be afraid to step out if it’s something you never did, or thought about, doing before. Someone once said you can probably find your purpose by answering the question, “What breaks your heart?” Give it a try.
As for me, I am going to continue to look for the people I can help. I pray that God will put me in front of them and they will know He did that…for them.
I had to be jolted by a horrific car crash that wasn’t and by the death of someone I will miss for the rest of my life. I’m pretty sure God tried to get my attention before all of that, and yet, maybe this is part of His perfect timing.
Have you found your purpose? What is it that breaks your heart? Are you doing something about it? I guarantee you will never feel better than you do when you find the thing that was meant to be your purpose, your calling, your life’s legacy.

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