If you were playing 20 Questions and “time” was the answer, what category would you put it in? Person, Place or Thing? Animal, Vegetable or Mineral? Measurement, Emotion or Figment of our Imagination?
It’s actually a hard thing to pin down, isn’t it? It’s a thing…we have it or we don’t. It’s a measurement…it’s too short or too long. What is time to you?
Time is all about perspective. Time is an emotion. Think about it. Let’s say you spend an hour doing something you love with someone you love. It feels like 10 minutes went by, right? “Time flies when you’re having fun.” That’s truth. Now, think about doing something you find tedious or think about being somewhere for an hour that you just don’t want to be. Time goes really slowly. Am I right?
I don’t mean to give you a headache thinking about this. You’ll see where I’m going with this, I promise. Here’s what I know: We all have what we’ve come to know as 24-hours in one day. 525,600 minutes in a year (Thanks to RENT for teaching me that…). So how come some people can do so much and others claim they just “don’t have time” for anything?
If you fall in the “I don’t have time” for anything category, I call BS. Sorry. I do. This is such a pet peeve of mine. You DO have time. The next time you’re about to tell someone you don’t have time for something, stop…. change your answer to, “That’s not a priority for me” and see how it feels. If you can say that and still feel good about your answer, EXCELLENT. If you now feel crappy because you told someone you love that they are not a priority to you, good. Time to wake up and get rid of the things you are making a priority that simply are not priorities, or at least shouldn't be.
I had a client tell me they couldn’t go for a 20-minute walk every day as a way to relax and clear their head. BS I called. I told this person to write down EVERYTHING they did in just one hour of a day. I picked the hour. Things like “looked at Instagram,” “scrolled through my Facebook feed,” “cleaned out my email folder…a little” and “used the restroom” were all on that list!!
Just stop telling yourself you don’t have time for important things (in this case to go for a 20-minute walk to help your health and mental well being). You just spent at least 20 minutes sitting in front of a screen of some sort and kissing 20 minutes of your life goodbye with nothing to show for it.
Do you need more time?
Write down what you do for an entire day and how much time you spend doing it. Now eliminate the garbage (and I’m not saying Instagram or Facebook are garbage. There’s a time and place for those things but not when the really important things in life (family, friends, goals, health) suffer because of them.
Now, back to time being an emotion. Answer two questions:
How do you feel when you’re sitting there scrolling through your social media feeds? And…
How do you feel when you’re doing something that serves your goals or you’re doing something with someone you love that you KNOW you’ll both be talking about for years to come?
I told you time was about perspective and emotion. Do you believe me now?
See how much time you save by eliminating the things that don’t move the needle in your life. I bet things change for you…and I bet you establish a whole new definition of TIME.